“There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one.” – Jill Churchill
Dear Whom this may concern,
Whether you are my subscriber, friend, family member, passer-byer, hater, no one…I felt the need to come from behind my walls and say something. A lot of people have felt the need to speculate what is going on in my life. I say speculate because there is really only two people who know the truth, Kris and myself. Yes we are no longer together and it has been a very difficult time for me. The rumours are flying around like the crazy and the people who start them don’t know the damage it causes. I wish and pray for nothing but my family to be together, but the reality is this is no longer a possibility. It is unfair for people to judge me, and “recommend” how I should change my life to what they think is best for my child. I am doing the best I can without support. It is very difficult for Jude to be without me. He is not exposed to violence or any kind of abuse, Kris and I love our son very much. He is young and is still breastfeeding. He has some medical issues and his doctor commends me for continuing to breastfeed even though it is a daily struggle for me. My back is killing me because he is so heavy. I will do anything for my son’s well being despite any reticule I might face. I do plan to return to school this up coming semester to not only further my education, but to provide myself with a strong successful future for me and my son.
I might not be what everyone compares me to and that’s perfect. I am far from it and packed with flaws but I am doing my very best to keep a positive head on my shoulders so that I can be healthy and happy for my son. Jude is my love, life, light. Before he was alive, Kris was my everything. It was depicted through my blog, Twitter, MySpace, Facebook, and a lot of my YouTube videos. He was a huge reason I started my videos and kept going. Some where along the way things changed, and I had no choice but to except them. It has been hard for me to deal with or break up, but like everything, time will pass and I will get over it. I just ask now, for people to respect our privacy and not add to this hard time. I love Kris and will always care for him because he is the father of my son.
I appreciate the love, support, prayers, and words of encouragement.
-Sonia
It's sad that you even had to write this, but I seriously commend you for doing it. You are a very strong woman and you deserve a lot more respect than you are getting.
All the best for you and Jude (and Kris as well)
xoxox
I commend you for everything you do. YOu shouldn't have to write but this but there are people in this world who think you aren't doing the right thing. You are an amazing person and mother. <3 You are doing the best for you and your son. Good luck with school! (: I wish all the best for you Kris, and Jude.
xoxo
Michelle(:
I wish you the best and hope that you always stay strong for Jude.
I cant believe you had to write this. It's no one's business what happens in your home and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. People are way too nosy now days and don't have anything better to do then to go around and spread rumors about someone.
Just stay strong, I know it's hard to ignore what people say but the only person that matters right now is your son. Live your life however you want.
Sonia,
You are an amazing mother. There are so many people that think they have all the answers, and most of the time it's people who don't even have kids. People don't understand how hard it is to be a mother, let alone a single mother. I'm about to begin that journey, and I'm scared and nervous. I will no matter what put both my kids first. I wish too that my relationship could work, but it can't and there's no need for my children to see their mom or dad unhappy. I commend you for being the bigger person and writing this, but there is not a need for you to reach out. You are a strong woman, you had Jude didn't you? You can do anything. You gave life to a beautiful being, and for that reason alone you ARE strong. You keep doing what you do ma, and know that your loyal followers will be with you.
all my love
Ally
i love your videos & your blog & im happy you are being strong. i wish i was as strong as you during a break up but maybe because there is a child involved it makes you much stronger because you have jude to protect im sorry things didnt work out with kris but god never gives you something you cant handle. & in time all will be okay. i just want to know what do u do to keeep your mind off the pain? besides take care of your beautiful son<33 im going threw alot & I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE TO begin to pick the pieces of my heart up off the floor
Stay strong, Sonia! You're beautiful and intellegent, and an amazing mother!
This makes me soo sad I've followed your videos from the very beginning and I feel so sad that you are going through this but you are a very strong woman and a great mother you will be able to get through this best of luck sonia!
Girl, don't explain yourself to anybody! You are an amazing mother. I am still with my son's father and it is hard to do with help, I don't know how you are doing such an amazing job all by yourself. You and jude deserve the best and you are the only one who knows what is best for both of you!! <3
Some people in this world Sonia have nothing better to do than to judge someone or because they're jealous. I've been following your youtube channel for awhile and have always picked up what a great mother you are and the only person you need to prove that to is your son.Im a mother of 4 children 3 boys of which are special needs having severe autism and epilepsy so being a mother is a challenge and definitely a struggle but we have the hardest job of all. I admire your courage and honesty and wish you did not have to put up with peoples criticism after all i remember this quote 'Rudeness is a weak mans imitation of strength'. I guess these people are weak. Good luck for the future Sonia and you have a beautiful son.
aww hun this made me cried dont worry hun everthing is gonna be alright those people they dont look at them selfs first screw them… you would always have us your subscribers.. we would always support you on anything especialy with jude 🙂 love you mamash love and kisses…. give jude a big kiss for me muahhhhh… claudette
You are such a special girl, and honestly I have looked up to you since I have started watching your videos. I pray that your things get better for you, and I know God has an amazing plan for you and your adorable son. Stay strong Sonia!!
Stay strong girl. You got this 😉
Like other commenters before me, I can't believe you had to write this.
*hugs*
Two of my best friends are single moms with children right around Jude's age, and those adorable babes are two of the most loved and adored children I've ever met. They, like Jude, are the center of their mothers' lives, and they bring light and love to everyone.
*hugs*
You are an amazing, strong woman and you are Jude's mother – I know you want the best for him and so that is what you will give him, no matter what the haters say.
Stay strong, bella.
You're such a great mother… People need to stop with their ignorant comments about your life. I totally understand where you are coming from. I completely respect and admire you for confronting theses comments. I hope they will stop with all the nonsense. I wish you the best!
Sonia, I am so proud of you! You are a beautiful person inside and out and no one has the right to judge any decisions you make in life. What has happened to you is only going to make you a stronger person for yourself as well as Jude, when Jude grows up he's going to see how strong his mommy is, because I see it in my own mother who went through the very same thing. And my mom as well went back to school for us (her children) and we are so very proud of her! Always keep your head up! I wish there was a way your subbies could help!
Love always,
Steph
REMEMBER haters are just that HATERS they hate on what they will never be and never have. they have nothing better going for them than to follow some one else and spend their time finding the flaws.
i know its hard to not read what people say but instead of letting those comments brake you help them make you stronger!! i know its easier said than done, but i hope it helps. keep it in mind.
“KEEP THAT PRETTY FACE UP. THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT WOULD KILL. TO SEE YOU FALL!” <3
Sonia thank you for opening up and letting us know what's in your heart. You will get thru this difficult time and come out a stronger person in the end. I know it's very difficult, but try not to even read what the haters write about you anywhere. The bottom line is that they are evil and jealous and want you to feel bad. Don't even entertain them. Do what you need to do to feel better and get ahead in life with your son. God bless you and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers always.
i look up to you for writing this. stay strong
Hope everything only gets better in your life, I am one of your youtube subc.I am sure you are doing all you can to progress in life, good luck you are a strong women just by writing this letter shows it.
Mer800
As long as jude still sees his dad and has a relationship with him via visitaion thats whats important in his life and he needs that as much as the relationship with you.
People are seriously making rumors? That's sick.
HOLA CHICA!
I posted a comment on your YouTube channel page about a day ago (kristyis03).
I just wanted to tell you that from the looks of it you are handling the situation very well. You have some great friends that are around when those solo moments come around and just need someone to help you get through them.
You have a very adorable son. And its very noticeable that you would do anything for him.
People change and relationships die but the mother-son bond that you and your son have will always be there and only get stronger as the years pass by.
I wish you the best in your endeavors.
I also want to say thank you for the blog posts and videos. You make me want to make some of my own. You are very inspiring!
MUCH LOVE from San Diego, CA
-Kristina!
I commend you for sharing this with everyone. It's your life and no one should judge you. I think your a great mother to Jude. And I whish the best for you and your family =)…
i love you sonia!!! you and jude are going to be fine 🙂 you are such an inspiration just keep doing what you've been doing because you're a great mother and don't let anyone tell you otherwise <3 you've inspired me in so many ways, i've even started making videos thanks to you. although i'm not a big guru or anything, i do it because i love it and haters will always be haters but you'll always have us and just remember that a lot of people love you
i wish you the best in everything beautiful!!!
i feel love you for sonia
im sorry if i have ever judged you inside my head and promise to always doubt my first impressions of someone and situation
i hope the best for you and baby jude because i was once a child with a struggling mother
This is an affirmation my dad taught me to say to myself every morning and i believe it works…
“I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, beautiful, lovely, harmonious and happy!”
don't worry be happy(:
Sonia,
No one but you and Kris knows what's going on in your relationship as Jude's mother and father. Don't let the neysayers get to you. You are a great mother and that's apparent. Anyone who has a negative opinion about your life needs to get one themselves. You are one of the only “gurus” whom I respect. Hold your head high and keep doing what you have been.
Marisol
sonia,
you did not have to write this. you owe no one an explanation! nosy people need to back off. YOU NOSY PEOPLE are disgusting who ever you are. sonia, that is your life and no one else's business. I love your positive attitude andd makes me want to better myself. love you and little dunka!
what rumors. who cares. OMG!
dont get yourself down by what people are saying..no one pays your bills so don't give them the satisfaction of getting upset by what ppl say.if you and kris are not together it is no ones business and you are young and beautiful and a beautiful person so someone who is meant for you out there! just keep a positive mind and keep being a wonderful mommy!!take care xoxo
I Wish you the best with your son (and Kris of course), hold you head up high and never give up or let negativity to start building up in you. Always be the person you are and please take your time. We'll wait until you've balanced everything well. You are a great mother and keep up your work
We love you <3
-Esther
I don't understand why people would start such malicious rumors about you & your family. It's absolutely disgusting. You're human like everyone else. I don't know why people would expect you to be perfect. You never had to share your talents with us, but you chose to do so. I'm personally thankful for that. Your videos are always real & helpful. I love how you put your son in your videos. Some people would never do that. You're a strong woman & Jude is lucky to have a Mom like you. I wish you, Jude & Kris the best.
xo Nicole
Oh sonia! There is NO need to explain yourself! We all know your an amazing mother, you can tell in your videos, pictures and blog! I really do hope for the best for you, your beautiful & really brave for all of what your going through!
xxxxx Lou
After having read this I just had to leave a comment. It pains me that people are so cruel. You and your family have been for some time the highlight of my day. I always watch your videos with a smile on my face, mainly because of the warmth and love you irradiate. I do hope someone will help you trought your hard time, the way you have helped me trough mine.
Sonia, you're great person, and I'm really sad after reading this. You deserve the best, and it is hard for me to imagine how this everything could happened to you. I'm sure that sometime you'll find right guy, who will love you and your son so much and make you feel special. I also wish you and your son to be healthy, happy and safe.
I'm also so badly angry because of people who started rumors…
Take care Sonia :* kisses from Poland.
Oh, you are so strong. We all know that you're a great mother, you don't have to proof that. Life is going on and I think in the future a lot of good things will happen to you and Jude 🙂
Like many others have written here it makes me sad (and mad!) that you felt you had to write this. YOU are Jude's mom, not anyone else… none of us should be telling you what you should do because we don't know what's best.. It's your life and you know what works for you. As only someone who sees you in videos I am AMAZED at everything you've gone through and still managed to be positive and Jude always looks so happy and outgoing, just a vibrant young boy – not many mothers would have been able to give their son that when going through such a rough time. You did! I come from a single mother so I salute you because it AINT EASY!
Remind yourself what an awesome family you have.. and your friends (you go Carl!) because you will see how great they are now when you need them 🙂
I hope you will continue with your blog, youtube, and facebook but if you find you can't… don't think of us because we will understand. You gotta do what you gotta do and we all want you (and Jude!) healthy and happy!
Stay strong girl (f them haters!)
-LaDonna
I will be thinking of you… <3
Hope u the best Sonia 🙂
It still amazes me to this day that people feel it is acceptable to to hate on others or criticize their lives. Some idiots feel like just you make yt videos that gives them the right to intrude on any and all parts of your life. So many awesome gurus, including yourself, deal with this everyday and it sucks. And to make matters worse, you're already going through such a tough time in your life. Keep your head held high girl, you are doing what is best for yourself and most importantly your little man. I am a mom to a 2 yr old boy. He is my reason for living, the absolute light of my life. And I can tell that Jude is that for you. Please don't let others gets you down girl. It takes such strength to do what you are doing and walk away because you know it is what's best for Jude. You are a fantastic mother, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I know it can be hard sometimes…the mommy guilt is a killer. I'm constantly like I wish I didn't have to work full time, I wish I could be a stay at home mom, and spend more time with my son. But, with a mortgage and all the other bills my hubby and I need to the two paychecks. We all do what we can, in the best way possible. Don't let these haters under your skin. Sonia, you're an amazing person and wonderful mother! xxoo
I love what you do, and you are very good at it. Your son is like an angel and so are you. Be strong.
You give me (and thousands of other women, too) so much inspiration and hope. You exude confidence and strength and I admire you for managing to stick through it & continue making videos. How commendable! Seriously, you have such an amazing heart, and Jude is so lucky to have you as his mama! All the best for you, Jude & Kris. Que dios te bendiga siempre xoxox
Your awesome I started following you because I love your posts and your little man although I don't usually comment. Your doing the best you can with what you have and that's all that matters
Sonia,
Just know that there are People who Support you. In the end it's nobody's Business but your own.
Me myself, a single Mother as well who has gone through the struggle and Won. Let me Motivate you to keep Positive and Keep going.
It's not easy but honey with love from Family and Friends you can do it. From one single Mother to another, I truly have faith in you.
even through the darkest Day the light will Shine. Have Faith and surround yourself with positive people Love.
Much love, and Respect.
God bless
Ness.
I'm sure one day, Jude will tell you how much he is lucky to have you as his mom! Be strong and stay beautiful! 🙂
I'm a fairly new subscriber so I do not know much of what you've written about, but I will say this, you are a beautiful human being, inside more so than your outer shell. I know it can be hard, but don't let anyone else's opinion affect how you feel about yourself or keep you from doing what you know is right. Be strong, there are many who care for you, no matter what. It is unfortunate that gossips and haters have such loud and obnoxious voices. Just two words for the negative ninnys, “For Shame!”
People should mind their own bussines,your private life is nobodys concern!You are beautiful woman (inside and out) and good mom to lil Jude.Wishing you all the best:)
Love and kisses:***
It's so disturbing that you felt the need to write this! I can't believe people are spreading rumors about your personal life and that they feel entitled to know what's going on with you and Kris. I can't imagine what your going thru! It must really suck having nosey a$$ strangers asking you and talking about something so personal! They just need to mind their own dam business!!! You do how to videos about fashion and makeup, not videos of your personal life!!! Really people? Sometimes people need to think first and put themselves in that persons shoes before they make stupid assumptions and talk crap! Maybe this world would be such a better place if people did that and stop being so dam negative!!! From your videos, ive seen your a great person and love your son dearly! Keep doing what you do girl! I love your videos and your blog! Love from another Latina. ****Karen****
You are my role model. I am only 15, and have self esstem issues. You were the one that showed me how to be strong and never give up.