Motherhood: Challenges at School
I am pretty open about things that happen to me and things that effect me. My son is a beautiful blessing and I would never say I wish I could take him back for anything. He is the reason I am where I am, in this bed, in this room, in this house – I did all of this for him. BUT- It has been challenging being Jude’s mommy. Most recently since starting school he has been in trouble and sent to the principles office more times than I can count for “fighting”. He is a strong willed boy.
I have changed up my ways of discipline over the years. The way I was raised was how I started and it did not work. It only made me feel bad and made him feel scared of me. The same fear I had of my mother. Don’t get it twisted – I love her and she’s amazing – but my style is always evolving. I am currently using TIME OUT like he does at school so that is consistent and it works…for the most part.
So in the recent months he has become very physical at school with others. I don’t care if its common – I don’t want it to continue. I have been told “He’s a boy, he’s fine”. If he came home hurt from another child at school I would raise hell. But he’s the hell raiser and Im his mama – so its been a tough pill to swallow for sure. Anyone else have this problem?
I called my aunt who has her own battles raising a strong willed child and she gave me so much information and insight…it was comforting. Almost like she gave me a tight hug over the phone. I was so lucky to have her to turn to for this kind of support. I unfortunately am guilty of making faces or senseless comments about her parenting in the past because I didn’t understand. Boy do I ever, now. He’s not a total terror because he can be with others and not fight but the amount of times has been so high I decided to see if anyone else had this problem. This is not an open forum to tell me how to raise him – Im asking mother to mother if there are any of you who are dealing with this and how you are remedying this situation.
*Latina Kisses*